I may not post until post holidays with some great Christmas photos…but I guess looking back over the year, for the most part, the year was awesome. There is not much a Dad can really ask for in terms of gifts – thus, the ties and socks jokes. But here are a few for the year that were good, and one that is a call out for something that makes the Fam sad (yes, the Button clan moving to Singapore).
Could there be a greater gift than getting Buddy in February? He’s added so much – from hair on the floor to a little brother for Maya and Demetrius to a running pal for Jer…but most of all, he has a family that loves him and treasures him now – and couldn’t imagine not having him jingling down the hall and jumping on the kids beds at night.
Our first weekend with Buddy…we are working to get to know each other here. It was so hard for Demetrius initially – autistics have such a hard time with animals (unpredictability, etc…) and putting his hands on him. Now he demands that Buddy sleep with him at night (periodically). We have made such big strides….
Demetrius’ birtday party – we still treasure the Spongebob and Patrick toys on the cake (and thank you to David Button for blowing out the candle)
What can I say? In early March we lost our first tooth
Very early in 2006 I began to hear about ‘Emily’ everyday. I went to have lunch with Maya in January and met Emily for the first time. I don’t think a thing has changed between Emily and Maya since I took this picture, and I think the picture says it all.
Does a Daddy need to write anything about his daughter? Exactly. Signed, sealed, delivered. There is only one Maya – and frankly, she has a place in my heart that noone – noone – has gotten to but her. Every year she’s becomes more a pain-in-the- X*#&, and every year she’s more of a joy for me. I guess, exactly what a daughter should be
At the bus stop before our first day of mainstream kindergarten. I slept, maybe, an hour the night before. All of you who read this blog with special needs kids know the pull and wants we have for our kids to have some semblence of ‘normalcy’ in their lives. This includes education. Yes, he was repeating kindergarten – but it was all mainstream, and all worry for Mom and Dad. How would he do? Would he fail miserably? Was he prepared? Were we prepared if it didn’t go good? So many what ifs. He’s doing fine. Might I say that his fitting in, playing with other kids, talking to other kids and just being as close to a typical kindergartner – hell, he is a typical kindergartner! – is the best gift? It certainly is up there with getting Buddy in February
The visuals in my mind I have for Demetrius are clouded by autism: flapping hands, no eye contact, weird body contortions. But once in awhile I see a photo of Demetrius that just screams normal little boy – or a little boy that is doing everything he can to be all he can be. The older he gets, the less apparent the autism is to those that don’t know. I picked this photo for the visual for the blog because he is no different in it than any other child. That’s what someone walking by would see – a little boy like their own son or grandson or brother. But if you look closely you’ll see the fingers dug deep into the sand for tactile stimulation. It takes work to see his autism – which is the point. This photo kind of just encompasses what I want the blog to be. It is also just a great picture of my kid at the beach
The Buttons are moving to Singapore. We’ll miss them. Amanda means the world to Kim and ‘Cowboy Bear’ (Demetrius’ one nickname he’s ever given anyone – David) will no longer be our partner in crime: whether that’s in speech therapy or playing around the house. We’ll miss these folks as much as we’ve ever missed friends. Good luck on your adventures Buttons moving all over this world!
I think this is as good a photo of us as there is, as a family, in 2006. I lobbied for it as our XMas card photo – Kim chose another of the kids. But I can post it on the blog…..
I’m not sure there is a better way to end this posting than with Maya making a goofy face as we sung Happy Birthday to her earlier this month. What a ham
Happy Holidays to all of you guys.