Transformers and Bitings…..
I wonder what part the producers/directors spent more time on, transformer battle scenes, or photo-shopping out all the tats that Shia Labeouf and Megan Fox have? We know they included his real life injury from his latest DUI.
One of the things that is truly getting harder for me, as the boy gets older, is separating out:
• When the autism is taking its toll, and he is having a fit that is autism related
• When he is having a fit because he’s tired, etc…like any nine-year-old
• When he’s just being a brat
One of the issues of handling is how it ends up – regardless of the three bullets above, they all tend to end up the same way, with his screeching and screaming, and lately, a manifestation of wanting to bite himself (also the running away with his hand covering his bottom – that’s no different than any other 9 year old
The other night he was screaming at Kim as she was trying to get him to clean his room (surprisingly he has really taken to his room) and when I told him to stop or he was going to get in real trouble (Nintendo DS taken away), he starts to bite his arm.
I did the only two things I knew how to do (outside of the utter jaw drop I was doing internally watching him do this to himself). I grabbed his arm while changing the tone of my voice from ‘in trouble’ to ‘lets talk’ and I told him that we do not bite ourselves.
We had a talk that first, yelling at Mommy when she tells you to clean up your room is unacceptable. Every little boy and girl has to do it, whether they want to or not (he has always reacted to cleaning up a bit violently – not physically, more or less acts out) and that biting one’s self is completely unacceptable.
I told him he’d get in more trouble from biting himself than anything else. He can take time to calm down and then clean his room.
“You won’t take my DS from me?”
“Demetrius, if you yell at your Mom and not clean up, then yes, I’ll take your DS.”
We eye each other. I wasn’t angry, I didn’t yell, I just looked him right in the eye – sternly. He looked right back at me, clenched his jaw, and then tried to bite his foot (he does get ups for extreme flexibility).
We went through the exercise again about biting oneself, but man, this is not going to be fun if he follows through and leaves a serious mark….