What a weekend – birthday gifts galore, a party and a sleepover. And if that wasn’t enough, we spent Super Bowl Sunday over at Joseph’s house exploring his backyard. Once this grew old, Demetrius explored Joseph’s VCR and watched old Disney movies. A great weekend for the boy!
All that said, you would have thought him to be worn out at 8ish last night…but no, he was still up and not willing to go to bed until about 9:30pm. This lack of wanting to go to bed at his designated ‘bed time’ is wearing on his mom and me – as he wants to lay and bed and chat…where is our free time at night going? Kim and I need the kids to go back to school just so we can catch a break.
A few months ago I posted a blog about a Mom who passed away, a French woman named Paulina, who was very sweet and understanding with Demetrius. Well, her daughter, Loundra, has been in Demetrius’ class the past two years and she rode over with us to his birthday party. On the way she chatted up Maya about losing baby teeth and she knows exactly how to handle the boy – she’s sandwiched between an older and younger brother, so she’s got the appropriate skills.
Today she is coming over to play for the afternoon after school and I’m interested to see how that goes. I was noticing that she took a shine to Kim, she helped Kim unpack and pack up at the party and didn’t want to go home (she kept asking if she could come over and play… we needed the break and Kim negotiated this afternoon’s play date, first with her, and then her father). But that attention to Kim and what she was doing… it only makes you wonder, doesn’t it? I think it would be great if ‘we’ got to be better friends with this little girl. Like I said, she knows how to knock about with the boys and this means this ‘tom-boy’ streak aligns her with Maya. Both have that cute little girl quality where they flirt a bit before they beat the crap out of the little boys who get in their way.
Initially we were going to have three boys for the sleepover, then two, but only one made it through the night (the other went home 9-ish – not uncommon among the wee-ones), Also, one was also autistic while the other was neuro-typical. While having two high functioning autistics in the house, I thought, could and would be a bit daunting (a lot of repeating, unspoken rules…and of course, TV talk, bouncing and squealing while watching SpongeBob, etc…), I did observe that in many cases there was absolutely no difference among these 7-8 year olds… at least in front of the TV on a Saturday night. None of them listen (they all become deaf when adults speak) when the TV is on, they all completely make messes when they eat cupcakes, and washing up afterwards is a somewhat optional experience. In fact, I’m pretty sure Kim and I repeated ourselves more often then the two autistic boys repeated things or ‘suggested’ what it was they needed/wanted.
I had a bit of concern how it would go for the neuro-typical, as he knows Demetrius well but not the other boy…don’t get me wrong, I assume he’ll mind his manners and behave, but I wondered if it would be, well, odd for him? Refreshingly, nothing at all along these lines popped up from what I could observe. In fact, the two ‘talked’ a lot about NASCAR, which they both share a passion. Funny, Demetrius at times was the odd boy out when discussing Jeff Gordon and other drivers whose names I now have forgotten (Demetrius has absolutely no interest in anything sports related). So when the mom came to pick up the one little boy, they had one last conversation about…well, their favorite races and the upcoming Daytona 500.
That was nice to watch happen. Maybe that’s an unexpected ‘gift’ of sorts… of acceptance and normality among two very different little boys? I think I’m just realizing this as I type these words…. maybe my concern and nervous energy about the sleepover and the autistic/neuro-typical is a bit misplaced? Hmmmm………